How to Love someone you don't

The holidays can bring great joy and give you the opportunity to express your deep love and appreciation for the people you love.
At the same time, you often have to be around people you may not love or like too much.
Let’s be real.  We all have relatives or in-laws who we might never choose to associate with.
How can you find connection and compassion for these people?
It’s not as hard as you think.
Look for things you have in common, like books you are reading or the love of reading.
Think about how you could bring compassion to the relationship.  Are they going through a hard time? Can you relate?  How could you let them know that?
Don’t get attached to the outcome.  Making this effort will make you feel good about yourself, regardless of their reaction.
Get curious.  Ask them questions about their life.  What are their hopes and dreams? What are their challenges?
A wise mentor of mine once said, “If you want people to be like you, be interested in them.”
A couple of years ago, I set an intention on the Wednesday night before we headed to Thanksgiving with my husband’s family.  This had been our routine for twenty-three years.  There were parts of the trip I enjoyed but often the time dragged by and I felt uncomfortable and out of place.  I decided, I wanted to be proactive about causing a different experience for myself.
I sat down and wrote out my intentions for the weekend.  They went something like this:

• I have compassion for my husband’s parents.
• I communicate with his family in such a way that they feel comfortable with me.
• I have fun and express myself.

Thanksgiving Day was quite pleasurable as it usually is.  The weather was great, I enjoyed seeing everyone I hadn’t seen in a year and the food was amazing as usual.  The real shocker was on Friday evening when I realized I was having fun and not dying to leave.  My husband’s mother seemed to want to talk with me all the time, his eighteen-year-old nieces loved hanging out with me, and I was able to support a difficult conversation between my husband and his sisters.   
Wow, the power of intention really works!  I will admit, I set my intentions not only consciously but in my subconscious using the power of Psych-K®.
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Happy Holidays,
Patti