Whatever you want at the holidays, know you’re going to go through some really normal phases
You long to be at peace. Especially at this time of the year. But you often get sad, lonely and depressed during the Holiday Season. You might be:
The journey isn’t easy. You can read about positive thinking and feeling your feelings but none of these things seem to work when you’re experiencing deep sadness and regret. It’s all bullshit and you know it. It’s HARDER than many can imagine - and it makes you doubt yourself. And whatever you’ve been doing…it hasn’t gotten you where you want to go - so you DOUBT you can ever get there. (Pssst- you can. But you MUST go through this phase, my friend!) Ugggg, there are so many ways to get what you want! So much information! You’re trying all the things! And then - you feel paralyzed, stuck, inert, anxious, worried. Getting nowhere. The overwhelm phase is tough. It adds to the doubt - the fear - and it SUCKS UP YOUR ENERGY. But in this phase, you’re starting to think, “How are OTHER people finding the peace that alludes me? You probably just want to give UP! You’re exhausted, trying all the tactics. UGGGG (Shhhh - stop being mad at yourself for the overwhelm. We ALL go through it. You don’t have to stay there….you’ll eventually move into a new phase.) What if I never get the peace I want? What if I’m stuck HERE - in this shitty place - longing for things to be different forever? What if I can’t get out of the overwhelm? THIS phase really SUCKS! It’s scary because you start to look at your future and wonder, “Is this all there is? WILL IT EVER GET ANY BETTER? And what if it doesn’t? Can I handle that? (Hey - there’s some good news coming. The fear, overwhelm, and doubt all finally push you into the next phase.) An option exists out there, I know it! There must be SOMETHING that can work. There has to be SOMEONE who can HELP me heal my past traumas and find peace and possibility in my life moving forward. ONLY after you’ve gone through phasse 1 - 4 are you likely to get out of your own way... NOW in phase 5, you start to think about how to actually GET what you want! For example, my client Julie is divorced with four children. She lives in a small town and her ex-husband is the sheriff. She has been living with a number of extreme upsets for many years. 1) I’m not lovable, 2) my husband destroyed my self-esteem, 3) my children won’t forgive me, 4) I’m trapped in my job, etc. After working together for four sessions, she is beginning to love herself, connect deeply with her children, feel love from others, and take steps forward to grow her business. The future looks completely different and she is excited about fulfilling it. BUT!!! It took her hitting bottom and being sick of your own BULLSHIT to really make a change. It took her being batted around in the system a little bit for her to start to think there might be an alternative option for herself. It takes feeling irritated and annoyed and DONE with all this CRAP before she thought… “Hmmmm….maybe something else is POSSIBLE for me.” “Maybe it doesn’t have to be this way.” I’m here to tell you - when you get to that point of believing there is POSSIBILITY for you - THAT’s when the shit starts to change. That’s when things get good. That’s when you’ll see the light at the end of the tunnel. Are you there yet? If not - no worries! I promise, these phases are ones we ALL have to go through before we GET WHAT WE WANT. If you’re there - and you’re ready to get what you want - then, let’s talk. I’ve been through ALL THE PHASES! I help people release past traumas and let go of negative emotions every day so that they can live with ease and true PEACE OF MIND. I can help you STOP feeling SAD, LONELY and RESIGNED - like a pinball at the mercy of other people and things being in control. I can help you CREATE a new experience of your life that allows you to GENERATE a new life moving forward. NOT a ONE SIZE FITS ALL-solution. Interested? Ready? Is this the year you give yourself the gift of FREEDOM?
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Patti LustigI am the owner of SageThink: Inner Alignment. I help people discover negative beliefs that hold them back in various areas of their lives and rewrite those beliefs so that they experience freedom and power to fulfill their dreams in life. Archives
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